The Art of Rejection
So a few months back I shared that I too had joined Match.com to keep Connie company on her search for the perfect match. I’ve come to a conclusion. Match is a rip-off and piece of crap. Want to feel worse about yourself? Join Match.com. Here I am more than a month later with 0 dates. I especially enjoy the the guys that look at your profile after a message or wink and ignore me. What I hear is “You’re not pretty enoughfor me.” Hey guys I have a message for you too – Fuck you. Hmm, that felt good. Hey Match, I want my money back. Can I sue them for emotional distress?
I’ve never said I’m some gorgeous model or anything, but I’m not ugly either. Yet, can’t even find a guy online, at bars, hiking surfing, nada. I’ve decided I must be cursed. No seriously, like someone put a hex on me to never find love. Eh, what do you think? It’s possible, no? So who out there has some advice on finding men? Because I’m obviously doing something wrong. And so my quest goes on….
In the process of deciding I’m cursed I have also decided that I’m going to have to learn to be alone, seeing as my friends will all be married and having babies and I’ll be forever single. I’ve challenged myself to to be more friend independent. First on my list is a movie alone. Lame, I know, but I have never been able to go to a movie by myself. Just can’t do it. So knowing that my friends will inevitably forget me once they have been completely brain washed in that relationship cult, I’ll need to do things alone. Movie first, then dinner and someday maybe a vacation. Baby steps.
I know what your thinking, I’m jealous. Yes, maybe a little. Don’t get me wrong, I’m happy for them. But it saddens me that things have to change. You’ve heard me say it before – friends change when they are in relationships and you become a second class citizen in their life. Soon they’ll be doing couple activities together, so that takes moi out of the mix all together. Oh well, so is life. Ugh, and I have to go to a birthday party this weekend with three of my close friends, one of which is on my shit list right now and may never be removed, and their significant others. I sense oodles of fun, insert sarcasm here. I’ll be wearing the sluttiest dress I can find in my closet, CFM (come fuck me) heels, and channeling my Samantha Jones alter ego. Then they can feel sorry for me for still having to act like that and bed hop. Their words, not mine. “It’s so sad that you are still running around like that.” Bite me.
I’ll let you all know how that goes.
LOL…Just stumbled across your blog! Made me smile despite the rain and the dullness of a wednesday afternoon! Also made me feel better as means I am not the only one thinking the same thing about these online dating sites and the fact people just ignore etc! I thought was just guys that went through this! Though I hardly actually bother with the site so that may be half the problem!
I know what you mean also about friends, not that I regrudge them, but once they enter that domain of relationships they change, forget who they were and slip out of that friendship world, that is until they have a problem, or are at a loose end and then as they know you are single automatically assume you will be there for them! Funny really when you look at it! I see so much more of my best friends when they have relationship problems etc! But I guess thats life and to be fair as long as they are happy that suits me!
Anyway enjoy the party, thanks for the smile and to be fair if the guy only looks at a picture etc and makes judgment not really worth it in the end…Hmmm supposed to make you feel better!!!
dumakey
August 20, 2008 at 3:22 pm
I also see more of my friends and get more calls when there is relationship trouble. I had a good two or three months where I was the friend they’d call when they were going to break-up. I called myself the curse.
Thanks for sharing.
Commitment Phobic Connie
August 20, 2008 at 4:00 pm
Thanks! I’m with you, I don’t bother with it anymore. Not worth the hassle…and personal humiliation. And I’m so with you both about friends all of sudden resurfacing when they have problems in their relationships. Happends all the time. And then when they are single again they expect you to available at all times and ready and waiting for them. Not gonna happen this time.
bitterbetty
August 20, 2008 at 5:17 pm
Ditto the Match.com comments!
cremelloquarterpony
August 28, 2008 at 7:42 pm